My last post was about the fact, that sometimes you just have to hold on in a difficult situation. But in some situations it’s also important to face the reality and you have to go on, wether you like it or not. To stay would just make it worse or keep you in a cage, so whatever is the result of you leaving, you should decide this for yourself.
For me there are some signs, when it’s time to pack up and leave:
When I get the feeling, that nothing keeps moving, that my heartbeat is too slow, that I have the feeling to shout out loud, but I stay quiet… I know something needs to change. When this feelings has been there already for a while and is getting a habit, it’s time to leave.
2. Everything is taken for granted
The small things you do for your love are taken for granted, is another one. If I do something for my love, because it’s him and I wouldn’t necessarily do it without him – but it’s not appreciated, a feeling is conquering me slowly. Drop it. Respecting each other for me means also to appreciate, what you are doing for each other in daily life.
3. Loosing the ability to “see you”
If your partner looses the ability to “see you” the way you are, with all your sorrows, your feelings, your thought, your little yours – because you become a fixed image of what you are used to be, it’s time to leave. Your love should always be somehow a reflection of you as well, and if just in reflecting you for yourself (while talking). But if he or she is reflecting a fixed image, it’s not helping yourself to see you. It creates a blurred picture of you, which keeps you captured. You should never fixe your partner in one image, let it flow and follow how it is changing everyday.
4. “I love you” become empty words
If you don’t feel the need to say “I love you” anymore or the moment you say it, you also could say “We need to buy milk”, it’s better to stay quiet. Just to reply because your love tells you “I love you” is already bad. However, if you say it without filling up this words with emotions, don’t use them.
If you notice this signs, it doesn’t mean necessarily, that your relationship should be ended or your love is over. But I think, it’s time to confront yourself with the situation and change somethings about it. Once in a while it’s good to leave, to give yourself space to breath, to see yourself again as an individual. Sometimes it’s time to pack up and leave, because love disappeared. The more you will keep your heart quiet, as it’s still not too bad, the more you will feel the need of a change. Sometimes your partner just got carried away by daily life and it’s good to focus again on what you share. Sometimes you keep on going for too long, than just one door is still open.
There are moments when we should come to a stop and analyze a situation. We should look careful, if we still behave like a lover and partner to our love and check on his or her behaviour as well. To state some things we don’t like or can’t stand is not the end of a relationship, but it should get us worried. Hence, we should start thinking about change, without being afraid of the outcome.