„Love is the shaping of the chaos. Eros is the power to create beauty out of the unformed material.“ Plato freely translated.
(Ficino Marsilio: De amore. 2004, p. 23)
Plato describes love as the light, which turns the chaos to God as the good power. The chaos is turning into shapes and beauty is created by the good power of love. The classical (european) example: The sculptor is working on an unformed rock. He or she is creating beauty in forming the rock to a sculpture.
Another example which I really love… Imagine all the instruments, melodies and possibilities of creating a song. Imagine all the sounds and influences, voices and texts you could put in one song. Our Artist would be the one forming power in this example. Full of love for music or for somebody he could create a song out of all this, which is pure beauty. It’s this kind of song which is playing endlessly in your playlist. It’s that kind of song which is moving something inside your heart, which could make you cry, which you maybe share with one loved person, which brings you in just one second a lot of good memories or makes you feel love for your love – the very moment you are listening to the song. You have such a song, right? I have a lot. And it’s a wonderful fragment of love in my life.
Create something between you and a person you love. It overcomes any distance as it’s one thing you share.
Share your love in creating beauty out of the chaos. It’s completely up to you, how to creat, just try to feel the love in your creation.
“Loving can hurt
You know it can hurt sometimes (…)
You know it can get hard sometimes”
Ed Sheeran “Photograph”
Ed Sheeran is talking not about the feeling of a first love or of falling in love, but about the reality in a serious relationship. Sometimes love hurts… when you are separated for too long, when you fight, when you have hard times. Somehow you survive, sometimes you don’t.
Challenges in a love between cultures can be as simple as in any other relationship: distance, to bring two lives together, having your first baby or some annoying people to disturb your love, facing yourself and so on…
How to get through this hard times: Photographs helped me through the times of separation (two years in whole). I had one wall for just myself in my sleeping room with a lot of pictures of good memories. All of them showing small moments from the good times with my love. Sometimes I talked to them in the morning, sometimes I took them to bed, sometimes I just remembered the whole moment around this one shot, once in a while I shared my day with them. People may call me insane talking to a piece of colored paper, but who cares as long as it gives you strength to overcome hard times.
I guess, this is what Ed Sheeran is talking about, too.
“It’s the only thing that makes us feel alive.
So you can keep me inside the pocked of your ripped jeans…”
Do whatever makes you feel good. Don’t forget the good moments when it gets hard. Keep a smile around you, if it is on a picture or in the face of your love – it will help you, when hard times come.